Idea Party

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How Does the Online Idea Party Work?

You have a dream or a wish, and an obstacle to getting there. (If you don’t think you know your wish, work through my kick-starter and read this post. To learn why you must put logic aside to find your dream, read the following.)

The online Idea Party is here to help you – and the other fellow party goers – with your wishes and obstacles.

Voices from Success Teams and Idea Parties:

Having a team to report to and hearing what everybody did each week is very exciting. It’s kept me moving all year. In the past I made some good starts on my own, but found, every time, when the energy ran out, I ran out. Now it doesn’t run out.
Jade G.
Children’s Playroom Therapist, New York Hospital

I would do a painting a year, a sketch a year. If it was only me I know I would never do it. Having to tell you makes all the difference. It’s crazy why I didn’t do this years ago, it’s so easy all of a sudden.
Caroline R. Personnel Executive, Macy’s Dept Store

Post Your Wish and Your Obstacle Here!

And help your team mates out when you can. Use the Reply link to help, the form below the comments to add your own Wish and Obstacle.

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2,230 thoughts on “Idea Party

  1. Hello everyone!
    I just want to be able to go to a movie with somebody, that is not a kid’s movie, once in a while and laugh my but off or cry heart out. I have lost friends here and there during the last 10 years, dealing with divorce, taking care of kids, financial problems and simple disconnection with friends on a real meaningful level.
    Obstacle:
    I seem to be very not social, don’t fit well with people, and get really sad or depressed in the crowds that are very impersonal. For goodness sake, I am just very introverted with disorganized interests, and outbursts of energy and curiousity person.

    PS if anybody need a friend for a movie, occasinal concert or even to jog together, please, contact me. I live in eastern part of Queens, NY.

    • Hi, Lina. Movies should be easier than a lot of activities to get going. If you belong to any groups, post something to their calendar inviting others to join you for a movie on a specific night of the month. If you don’t belong to any groups, post it on Meetup.com, targeting a specific (and safe) group, like Movie Night for divorced women. I’d suggest Wednesday night, because it’s not a date night, but it’s a common kids visit dad night. You pick the movies and post them, along with the theater address and the time. If you don’t like the group this attracts, invent another one, like Movie Night for Comedy Lovers in their 40s. Or Discount Day at the Movies for Women in their 60s. Eventually, you’ll find one or two people who are really fun to go to the movies with. In the meantime, you’ll be going to the movies at least once a month. And you can invite the same group to the occasional concert or jogging hour.

  2. Hello!
    I am new here and a little scared/big nervous, posting my wish here.

    I want to find real and lasting love and friendships.

    Obsticle 1: I always find people who are not really available or to whom i am not that valuable to them, than they are to me.

    Obsticle 2: I be leery against people, because of many bad experiences.

    O3: I have fear of showing up, because of low self esteem, lot´s of self-doubt´s and bad experiences & i always kind of loose myself in relationships and be very stressed out by wanting to do all right in contacts… so i am kind of liking being alone more and be more relaxed while being alone.

    :/

    Warmly, Caro

    • Caro, I learned a little trick for showing up and meeting nice, available people by watching a fascinating man named Larry. Larry looked a little odd. He sounded a little odd. But he would show up at lots of singles events, armed with a question of the night, something that could not be answered with a simple yes or no but steered clear of politics and religion. “Who’s your favorite painter, past or present?” or “What’s your favorite color M&M?” would work.

      He would enter the room, walk up to the woman nearest the door, introduce himself, and ask his question. If a woman answered and turned the question back to him, he already had an answer ready to go. If the exchange turned into a conversation, he’d say, “Wow, I’d love to talk with you more, but I’ve set myself a goal of meeting everyone here tonight. Would it be okay if I called you tomorrow to talk some more?” He’d pull out a blank card and a pen and get her number.

      If anyone was rude or dismissive, he’d say, “Glad to meet you, have a great evening” and move on to the nearest woman and start again with the same introduction and the same question.

      Event after event, he left with more women’s phone numbers than the tall, dark, handsome guys in fancy clothes. And when he arrived at any event, lots of women would say, “Hi, Larry!” just because he was always so pleasant, even to the meanies.

      For women, I’d suggest introducing yourself to both men and women if you try this. You’ll make friends who can support your efforts to find someone to love. And if you’d prefer not to do the calling the next day, you could print up cards with your name and phone number to give the folks you’d like to talk with again. Wishing you the best of luck, Caro!

  3. Hi,
    A couple ideas.
    1. Find what your touchstone is. I. E. to see England.. Then start reading, about it, talking about it and do it it.

    2. Barbara, in WISHCRAFT, tells a story about someone whose dream was to buy a boat and sail around the world.
    Buying the boat was going to take until he retired to save enough money and have enough time.
    However, was the touchstone to own a boat or sail around the world.
    In this case, it was to have the experience of sailing around the world. Then for example maybe sailing for hours, then days on longer and longer trips would eventually provide you with that ride around the world. At the very least you are enjoying sailing more then waiting to buy a boat, Then your experience starts now not “someday”
    . Good Luck!
    Jim. Dream Inc

  4. Hello,

    This feels like such a long shot in the dark. But that’s where dream lives start right, in the quite of our minds. So, my dream is to live and work in the UK and not on a shoestring budget. It feels like there are several hinderences to this dream…

    Obstacle 1:
    Finding a good paying job that allows for good work/life balance. I’m an US citizen that has a BS in Mechanical Engineering and has been working in various engineering positions for 7 years now.

    Obstacle 2:
    Debt. I am working hard to become debt free but that is still several years down the road. I have student loans from my excellent university education which will take longer than a couple years to finish paying off. And I have purchased a house here recently to help with living expenses as my mortgage is less expensive than rent was.

    • Sounds like you’ll need a good-paying mechanical engineering job, a tenant or buyer for your house, and a visa. For that last one, check into engineering firms in your area that also work in the UK. (Just put your city, “engineering services” and UK into a web search.)

      And check here (https://www.engc.org.uk/international-activity/access-to-practise-in-the-uk/) to see if you’ll need to be licensed for the type of engineering you do. If so, perhaps you could make a lateral move in the US to get into a field they don’t regulate, then move back once you’re there and have a UK employer to help pay for whatever it takes to get licensed.

  5. Hi Susan,
    This heading says Barbaras’ Club, then it says idea party, and it’s explained here, right above where you post a comment.

  6. I don’t understand what the Idea Party is and how to tap into it. Is it just this blog post or something more?
    Thanks!

  7. Hi,
    Well, I’ve been stuck longer than I imagine is humanly possible. I’m sure I was even born a couple years late. Speaking of, I contacted your group a couple years ago and there still is no forward movement, but backwards is doing quite well. I’m a writer who has a lot to say but no money to keep me afloat. Does anyone have an ideal job or place to live in northern Montana this summer? I’d love to be there to write. I do carpentry, but I want pen to paper. Appreciate any ideas.
    Thanks,
    Mark

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