Idea Party


How Does the Online Idea Party Work?

You have a dream or a wish, and an obstacle to getting there. (If you don’t think you know your wish, work through my kick-starter and read this post. To learn why you must put logic aside to find your dream, read the following.)

The online Idea Party is here to help you – and the other fellow party goers – with your wishes and obstacles.

Voices from Success Teams and Idea Parties:

Having a team to report to and hearing what everybody did each week is very exciting. It’s kept me moving all year. In the past I made some good starts on my own, but found, every time, when the energy ran out, I ran out. Now it doesn’t run out.
Jade G.
Children’s Playroom Therapist, New York Hospital

I would do a painting a year, a sketch a year. If it was only me I know I would never do it. Having to tell you makes all the difference. It’s crazy why I didn’t do this years ago, it’s so easy all of a sudden.
Caroline R. Personnel Executive, Macy’s Dept Store

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2,294 thoughts on “Idea Party

  1. I don’t understand what the Idea Party is and how to tap into it. Is it just this blog post or something more?

  2. Hi,
    Well, I’ve been stuck longer than I imagine is humanly possible. I’m sure I was even born a couple years late. Speaking of, I contacted your group a couple years ago and there still is no forward movement, but backwards is doing quite well. I’m a writer who has a lot to say but no money to keep me afloat. Does anyone have an ideal job or place to live in northern Montana this summer? I’d love to be there to write. I do carpentry, but I want pen to paper. Appreciate any ideas.

  3. I dream of having a travelling job in some relation to architecture or some combintation of humanities and sciences, but I would take any inexpensive leadership training or mentorship. I also want to help my cousin come to the US. She’s not a citizen like me but she’s worked very hard and is talented, even completed a Masters here, but she had to go back because she didn’t land a job in in computer forensics in time when her visa expired.

    Obstacles – I have a lot of freedom to travel even though I prefer to be in sunny places. I have no problem travelling anywhere. I am one course away from a Penn State Math degree. I don’t have money, mentorship/training, or the healthcare I need.

    Good luck to everyone here.

  4. I want to build my Professional Speaking business and also the Coaching Business that I have started here:

    I am writing my book regarding my last 25 years business experience titled, “The Dream” and it is going through the writing/editing process now.

    I really would like to be a Barbara Sher coach, but apparently, I am too late for the one offered this year.

    Obstacle 1: Last year was the worst year of my life when it comes to business and I went into a terrible depression that wasn’t alleviated until I found a coach that offered a 30-day program last December that cost a whopping $1. It was life-changing and now that I have found Barbara Sher’s information I finally have found someone that understands me! The problem is, I am currently totally broke and need to find a way to make money, hopefully with this program. I am a changed man and the last thing I want is a regular job as I have worked for myself for the past 14 years.

      • Yes, and I am always searching for something that will work. I have spent tens of thousands of dollars on programs but something always happens and I soon quit. It isn’t always that I lose interest, its that some problem arises that can’t be overcome and all that has happened is my wallet has been drained and my time wasted.

        The other obstacle I face is that I have given up on becoming a Sales Person. I’m always thinking way too far ahead in any sales situation and it made them feel uncomfortable. I’ve finally decided to surrender and let someone else do the sales part.

        The problem now is, I am not sure what I am going to do.

        • Hmmm… we need to get a bit more concrete I think. Maybe you can list somethings you have tried that didn’t work and we go for that? Or you can tell us some of your skills and we come up with ideas on how to make money out of them as quick as possible? Another question: do you have a concrete amount you want to reach? Like a monthly sum?

  5. I have a deep, passionate desire to create and design home floor plans and tweak details, spatial relationships of things, that produce exponential and suprising results. That make Life easier in the actual day to day functions. To relieve drudgery of tasks. Ease of use. Realistic and practical. I feel like a UX/UI designer of tangible home life flow needs.

    I have lived in multiple houses, apartments and townhouses. I was keenly aware of functional spatial relationships of building floorplans, layouts, contents etc from the time I first have memories. About age 4-5 years old. I’ve heard many homeowners complain of how their homes could have been thought through a little better, etc.

    Quick lame raw examples/ideas: builders of older homes placed the housewifes washer/dryer way out in the hot or freezing garage or basement the farthest from where all laundry was produced. Tiny kitchens. Useless formal dining rooms. Needing a home office.
    Ok, these are silly and far from the possibilities that I want to do, But an easy starting point to understand why the remodeling industry stays in biz. I want to go farther. Things no one realize have impact in ease & flow to safe time & effort and sublininally support collaboration, connectedness, positive interaction and joy. New ways of Be-ing in the home space without it looking unobtainable or innovative at all. I read a statement by a pixar exec who realized some errors in their new spectacular office and how it effected interaction, performance and then finally, their bottom dollar. He gets it.
    I can do this for the lowly trapped housewife with kids that has to make the best environment for her family with less effort. When she feels better and has less “burden” then there is room for her to relax into her femminine energy and access that incredible sexual/creative energy that produces beautiful results in life and in people.

    Obtacle 1: oh boy. I have no idea where to start! I have no network connections that seem viable.
    I dont want to get a degree. I want to physically work or apprentice in a creative environment versus an imbalanced, only bottom line profit/savings environment. A homebuilder that uses stock plans? An architect who has no time to mess with me? One friend of y husbands is a self made multimillionaire “venture capitalist” type who will financially back anything i want to do. But I am a “scanner” and wont commit to the suggested nursery, bar, nightclub, restaraunt etc. Plus my husband will take over and claim it for his own if I start a business. Which has been done before.
    One of this venture capitalist friends businesses that he did for “checking it out/see what the profit margins were for the effort/investment” cranked out a few dozen common spec homes. He is not interested in the passionate/creative part of the venture. JUST the numbers. Which is the point, but thats what I’ve always done. I have always focused on numbers and I want to Create! I interact with very managerial or sales types, and many wonderful people with normal jobs that make sure our society exsists and functions. But no-one that I can create with. Kindred spirits that I resonate with. No one to play and win with. Lol

    I cant just call all of the Homebuilders out of the yellowpages and say, “lets tweak what is, watch it come into demand and have a blast doing it”

    Where are people and companies like me? How can I work for a group that is already intent on doing this?
    After scanning youtube for like minds, which I cant list all here. One is a channel called (slowhome). It is more aligned with an aspect of what I want to do. They use analytics, golden ratio etc.
    I even tried to use virtual reality gear and use a program called tiltbrush to build a home I could walk through but it was limited. It is easier to put ideas on paper and large grided velum paper to design. But that is only 2D. I have physically remodeled many friends, family and my own homes which was fun but I want to create new homes versus remodel.

    Obstacle 2: i am completely intimidated by actually taking a first step out of my current familiar exsistence. I need quality mature mentors. An inspired, growth mindset leader versus a narcissistic boss.

    Obstacle 3: no professional portfolio or resume. Great work history in story form though! Also a high school dropout.
    Obstacle 4: current situation. Lowly housewife with no income. Worked for husband for years to help generate income. Hes the “boss” and if i want to be sucessful, im on my own. Which is both a blessing and a curse! I have permission but will get no helpful support or $ without control-strings attatched. But if I generate my own income, then I can do what I want with it with no controls over it! So I want to be financially independent. He knows what I’m up against. If I work from home and get excited about anything, then he sabotages things or manipulates it to where I end up working for him again. So… out of sight=out of mind, meaning that when I leave the house [box] i can work happily and freely and come home with a straight face, not excited and can keep the peace. I have integrity. And am loyal and faithful. What lights my fire is Work. Productivity. Success. Income. Creating. Win/Win. No zero sum game or games. Personal growth. And being inspired by great leaders in their industries. I love to learn.

    Ok, back to dishes, laundry and Stepford wifing now.
    Send help. S.O.S. If Im going to work, i want to LOVE it. How do i create homes?

    • Every Home Depot and Lowes store has a desk for designing kitchens and other cabinetry. They provide software that easily lets you show people your ideas for their space and price them out. It’s not a full-blown design job, but it’s a paying job out of the house that comes available frequently and lets you start doing a little of what you love while you build up enough of a nest egg for the next step. They may even cover the cost of additional training in this field while you’re with them.

      It’s what Barbara calls a Good Enough job. It has fixed hours and limited responsibilities. It includes a little of what delights you. And it brings in the money that will free you from the profit motives of those venture capitalists.

      It also lets you talk with customers about those marvelous goals of yours for designing living space well, which will give you lots of quotes from them to use when you start talking to home designers. And it puts something on your resume that distinguishes your work from your husband’s, making your next hop easier.

      Giant leaps are what keep people from ever doing what they love. Little hops make it possible.

  6. Dream for now: I want to move to New York City and find a job related to my degree in Painting from the San Francisco Art Institute. Obstacle: I have practically no job experience since I dealt with a mental illness earlier in life.

    My favorite things are writing and storytelling, and then visual art especially drawing. I also love animals and would love to work with them but I don’t have a degree in biology so it would be hard to find a job with non-pets. I don’t know much about New York City living but if I had a job related to art or writing I would be pretty happy. Honestly I want to move to Brooklyn to take care of my grandmother.

    My overall goal in life is to create and illustrate children’s books and work with wild animals like at a sanctuary. Do any of you guys have an idea for how I can proceed? I am nervous about graduating in a month and would hate to have nothing to do as it would probably throw me into a depression.


  7. Hi Infinite World! Thank you for reading this pathetic post.
    I am 24 freeloading off my parents, currently without a smartphone, a car, unemployed and studying Won Buddhism through Won Kang Digital University to finish my college credentials I was so resistant upon finishing in the US years ago. I have a TOPIK Level 2 certification and need help figuring out how I am going to get over this hump of lack of motivation because I feel I cannot finish what I start and am afraid of rejection. I lack brain function, people skills and I have obsession with holistic health and clean eatting. My dream is to sky dive, free running and ultimately become an accupuncturist/holistic health doctor/reflexologist and an archer I would like but I currently dont have the opportunity to do so. I guess I am snailing towards my accupuncturist dream but these rest may be dead.
    Thanks for rekindling the spark in me Barbara Sher and Team,


    • OSK, I heard some fascinating advice at an in-person Idea Party once. It might help you. It’s about fear of rejection. Fear of rejection is likely why you don’t finish what you start, too — there’s someone lurking in your thoughts who you fear will reject you if you succeed.

      If fear of rejection is what stops you, their advice was to spend time with people who actually enjoy rejection or at least see it as the best means to their ends: salespeople, actors, comedians.

      One thing I know about how many of them deal with it is that they set themselves rejection goals instead of acceptance goals. They will stop for the day or the week only after x rejections, no matter how many wins this brings them.

      In my Success Teams, I give folks starting over again, like you, an assignment to pick a list of companies that interest them and phone all of them until they get 3 rejections the first day, 4 the next day, 5 the day after, etc. (But none ever got to day four, because they had too many interviews set up.) If you have a printed or online local Yellow Pages, that’s a good place to begin. If not, use a search engine, a key word, your town, and the word “hours,” because most businesses list their hours online.

      You must start at the top of the list and call each one in order. Tell them how much you like whatever it is they do (sky diving schools, acupuncturists, archery ranges, Buddhism, etc.) and that you’re looking not for a job but for their advice on where you might find some work in this field. Lots of them will say “not interested,” which is good, because you can’t stop until you reach the day’s rejection goal. But some will want to talk with you. Ultimately, you’re looking for a job (part-time, short-term) that will give you enough cash to get a cell phone, so you can look for better jobs. If it’s good enough, stick with the job until you can buy a car, too. Then find a job, any job, that gets you your own place to live. The fastest route to a job you’ll love is one that keeps you in touch with people doing what you love while gradually building up a work record in a field where you’d love to find a great job but can’t yet.

      Also, please use some of the money you earn to do some skydiving and archery. Both of those are great hobbies and no one turns either of them into an income source without first enjoying them as hobbies, meeting others who enjoy them as hobbies (the very people who will provide any income), and building your skills.

  8. Hello everybody!

    I would gladly join a team or get in touch with people who just like me feel lost in their dreams and desires or need help achieving them.

    I’m 27 and currently living in Poland. I’m a teacher and an occasional multilingual translator, but this was never my dream. I’m a person of many interests, even if most of them I believe to be of little use to me (sepulchral architecture, perfumery or Lithuanian flora). I’m in love with life but I feel utterly lost. Perhaps I’m too blind to see what another person would figure out about me in 10 minutes.

    • Hi Violet
      How are you?
      I get how you feel. I am also a teacher; of English. What do you teach? Are you English? Just keep going and listening to what the universe is telling you; and I think is that to keep on keeping on for now. I teach online with Lingoda but it does not give me enough money. I have a house and I would like to rent out a room but yet again… I can’t afford to decorate it. Sometimes I walk with my dog and feel happy and I have to remind myself that I am in fact happy now and this continual searching is just the fabulous gift of desire; the need to want to move forward. It will happen.
      Best wishes
      Belinda 🙂

  9. Thanks Patty,
    I apreciate the information greatly. I have a GED as a matter of fact, I often times think that it isn´t of very high value, as far as academic training. I will look into the TEFL online.
    Again thanks for the info. Let me know if I can help in any way.
    God bless,

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