Barbara Sher’s Idea Party


How Does the Online Idea Party Work?

You have a dream or a wish, and an obstacle to getting there. (If you don’t think you know your wish, work through my kick-starter and read this post. To learn why you must put logic aside to find your dream, read the following.)

The online Idea Party is here to help you – and the other fellow party goers – with your wishes and obstacles.

Voices from Success Teams and Idea Parties:

Having a team to report to and hearing what everybody did each week is very exciting. It’s kept me moving all year. In the past I made some good starts on my own, but found, every time, when the energy ran out, I ran out. Now it doesn’t run out.
Jade G.
Children’s Playroom Therapist, New York Hospital

I would do a painting a year, a sketch a year. If it was only me I know I would never do it. Having to tell you makes all the difference. It’s crazy why I didn’t do this years ago, it’s so easy all of a sudden.
Caroline R. Personnel Executive, Macy’s Dept Store

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3,507 thoughts on “Barbara Sher’s Idea Party

  1. Hello everybody! I found Barbara Sher’s ted talk today and I have been all day watching her videos. That made me wonder if there was an online community to have idea parties and I found this site. I’m very happy to be here and I wish I can be helpful in anyway possible.

    I also have a wish I would like to share. I love to speak in front of people. The jobs I loved most in my life have been working as a teacher and working at a museum about science and magic. Now I’m working as a salesman but I don’t really like the selling part although my company has great conditions and they treat me very well. I would love to feel again “that something” I feel when I was in front of an audience explaining things I am interested in and I can see the amusement in the faces of the crowd and know for sure that they are learning something.

    My obstacle is that I need an oportunity or find a place where this skills I have are needed. I am from Barcelona and I have all the formation and there are plenty of opportunities but it seems that I can’t grasp any of it. I don’t know how anybody can help me with this but I am quite interested to see the answers since I have seen the comments in this site and I can sense that there are very good vibes.

    Thank you everybody in advance

      • I feel that since I live in a big city, I’m sure there must be plenty job positions that I could be happy with (In fact, I just need one), but I don’t know if I can’t find them or I’m looking in the wrong spots but I can’t seem to find anything that would make me feel “I want to do that”.
        The only positions I find are teacher positions but they just don’t click. The last position I found , that I think I would enjoy doing was to be a teacher in a hospital for children that are there for a long time. I love to adapt to that kind of situations and getting the best of it. The thing is that they sent me an email saying I am not getting even an interview.
        Thank you very much for the reply.

    • Hi, Toni. It’s a difficult time for finding opportunities to teach in person, but these will be coming back soon. And you have a good enough job to keep paying your bills until then. Why don’t you make a list of interesting schools and museums and zoos and other teaching venues and send them a letter introducing yourself and your experience and enthusiasm. Tell them you would love to hear from them whenever they are ready to re-open and might need someone. End with “I’ll be back in touch in two months if I don’t hear from you before then.” You really do not need to wait for jobs to be advertised. When you contact them again in two months (if you have not already found a fun job), try to have a video ready on YouTube of you teaching a socially distanced group you gather in some interesting outdoor venue?

      • Hi Patty!
        Thank you for your reply. In fact I’m feeling a little bit silly that I didn’t came up with an idea like this. It’s much better to go and look for the job you like than staying home waiting for the golden opportunity. I will start today searching for companies I would like to work with and also adapting my resume so they see what they are looking for in an employee.
        Thank you again for the idea. Have a great day!

  2. My wish is to move to BC, Canada, to work with the wild orca there. It has been a dream of mine since a child and I have always imagined myself settling down in BC. I’m currently studying biology as a way in to studying orca, however it’s a very niche and competitive field.

    My obstacles are that I’m a UK citizen and I can’t get a visa in Canada without getting a job. I have a degree in photography but that’s not really work that is easy to find. I’m also too old for something like a working holiday visa, and I can’t afford to study there. My second obstacle is that I’m not very mathematical or scientific, so I worry I’ll never be smart enough to be a scientist, or if it’s even the right job for me. I’m not sure where to go from here.

    Thanks for any help!

    • hi Emma, I love animals too, and I’m thinking to study biology. What do you mean by not being scientific enough? you want to be a wildlife biologist right? pls explain further
      if you want to make sure it is the right job go for volunteering and find if it fits you.

  3. Hey I can definitely relate , but you have some good options. I myself relocated back here about 10 years ago from Texas because I have family in the area and I miss the east coast and New England very much except the harsh Winters. I live in Connecticut Fairfield county wonderful place but it is a little bit expensive however you can still enjoy everything the Connecticut has to offer which is quite a bit if you go a little further up north such as New Haven lots of beautiful towns up there they’re much more affordable and you’re skip and jump away from New York City which as you know it’s pretty amazing. there’s many benefits to being in this part of the country I found after living in many different places in the United States as well as traviling extensively throughout the world. The way I handle the harsh winter is I keep my work schedule flexible and I live simply and frugally so that I’m in a position to take off for a couple of months in the winter. Thailand is very affordable the Caribbeans are very affordable many places in Europe are very affordable and then you can enjoy the warmer weather in the east coast which it’s as you know it’s beautiful. You may also try the Carolina’s many people from here settled there and they seem to really like it and be happy there I’ve been in real estate for many years I’d be happy to help you research some of these things. Connecticut is beautiful I love it here so I’d be happy to provide you with information and an assistantace in whatever else you may need to check it out. also as we mature being within driving distance to our family is huge so I encourage you to pursue your goal to find a place that’s more suitable and that puts you closer to your family for your benefit and theirs. I’m going to put my contact information here please feel free to reach out I’ll be happy to answer any questions, help you with any research that you need.

  4. I need some help finding the ideal location to settle down. I currently live in the SF Bay Area, which I don’t love. I love the weather but that’s about it. I’m originally from NYC and my family lives there so I want to move closer to my family. Here’s my dream: I’d love to move somewhere closer to my family (maybe less than 3 hours drive) but with better weather (I’m not sure this is possible). I’d like it to be cheaper than NY or SF with more space but also have some nice town centers with fun things to do like art classes and book clubs.

    My obstacles are 1. a lot of what I want just seems impossible and 2. I don’t know enough about neighborhoods and towns outside of Brooklyn, Manhattan, or Staten Island to say where I can find the other things I’m looking for. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

    • I never imagined I would enjoy it after growing up in a NYC commuter town and living in several other cities, but I am really enjoying the mainland just outside of Atlantic City, 20 minutes from the beach. Except for the Garden State Parkway and Atlantic City Expressway on summer weekends, there is very little traffic. There’s a very inexpensive train into Philadelphia (less than $10 RT if you’re over 62 or disabled) and multiple buses into Manhattan. Lots of art and dance classes around. I haven’t checked for book clubs. Plenty of restaurants. Lots of beaches. Lot of wineries with events. A fascinating marine mammal rescue center. Stockton University. Historic Smithville (a boutique shopping downtown) is here. Cape May is about 45 minutes south. Prospect Park in Brooklyn is about a two-hour drive, unless you try it during rush hour.

      We get much less snow than the NYC-area suburbs and very little of the storm damage you’ll find in our beach towns. Most of the year, we’re warmer than Philadelphia, except for spring, when we run a few degrees cooler because of the ocean temperature, and the middle of summer, when the ocean breeze keeps us cooler on most days.

      The airport is very close and is served by Spirit. I found one day, when relatives were vacationing in Myrtle Beach, that I could fly down there in time for breakfast, lunch, and dinner with them, and be home before midnight for a total cost of $89, including parking. (Oops. Forgot the $1 I paid in bus fares in Myrtle Beach, which is a fascinating town.)

      You can rent a 2-bedroom townhome in a safe neighborhood with a pool, gym, and clubhouse for book clubs for about $1,500 a month. If you’re over 55, there are several communities with clubhouses and activity schedules where you can buy or rent. We discovered the place after spending a few winters at the shore (where we rented a 4-bedroom, fully furnished townhome for $900 a month) to escape the cold at our upstate NY home. It gave us lots of time to explore, and we chose to move full-time to Galloway.

  5. Hi there,

    I thought I was a member here in the group, but there must be a glitch. I have a wish and an obstacle to share.

    My wish is to find a loving home to take my daughter’s old loft bed. It is in excellent condition and free to anyone willing to travel the 60 miles north of NYC to pick it up before April 30.

    My obstacle is that the bed does not have the hardware. I must have packed it and can’t find it anywhere. I am happy to share pictures and a video upon request. I really appreciate your help in finding someone who will love the bed as much as we did.

    Thank you,
    Andrea Amador

  6. My dream is to become a famous musician and circus artist. I want to inspire people with my art!

    My obstacles are that I don’t have enough content, original songs, connections, social media presence, or money.

    • My dream is to become a famous musician and circus artist. I want to inspire people with my art!

      My obstacles are that I don’t have enough content, original songs, connections, social media presence, or money.

      My instagram is if you’d like to get a feel for who I am

  7. Hi everyone,
    I have recently joined the group as I was hoping to get help to achieve my goal for this year which is to get a part-time job so I pay for my outstanding tuition fee. I am finishing my Master’s degree in Biotechnology (Biomedical Science) this June 2021.

    But I thought it was really hard to get a part-time since I have lost my previous one due to the pandemic.

    So I decided to put up a fundraiser. It would mean a lot to me if you can give me even just a dollar. I am really sorry to be a burden to you guys but this is the only solution I can think of.

    This is the link:


  8. Mine is to, again, find and join with a healthy community. I once had one, in Ft Lauderdale, FLA. I had not been seeking community, and had never heard the phrase “intentional community,” in the early 80s; but that is just what i found in around ’81 when i first met a man named Pastor Tree. But my life was about to change for the better, by associating myself with Tree’s Florida Mission and (unaccredited – this word is purely editorial) school of the Bible! My barriers are a limited income, and the ongoing need for medical services – primarily med. mgmt.

  9. Hello lovely BC members! I love seeing all of your dreams articulated here–it’s so inspiring. 🙂

    I recently started a podcast called The Everything Enthusiast, spawned by reading Refuse to Choose. The goal of my show is to bring folks like us together to get more done and take bigger creative risks inspired by the experiences and ideas of other scanners who’ve made an impact. It has Barbara’s influence all over it and I talk about her often.

    Here’s my wish: I want my podcast to become one of the top-ranked self-development podcasts in Apple Podcasts. So I’m humbly requesting support in two ways. First, if a show like this would resonate with you, I invite you to listen and subscribe: . It’s also available on other platforms (like Spotify) if you’re not an apple user. 🙂

    Secondly, I’d LOVE to interview other scanners on my show. If you love all the things and have done something that other people think is interesting or noteworthy, please consider being my guest. (Noteworthy can be anything from having a book published to traveling the nation in an airstream). My audience needs tips from you on how to get more done, how to find more time, how to squash imposter syndrome, how to sustain your energy, etc. If you have facilitated a Success Team and can share stories, I’d love that!

    ***I know that many of us have trouble viewing ourselves as talented or interesting, so please know this: I don’t want millionaires and famous authors on my show. I want real, relatable people who have done some cool things and are living their best lives. If you have a product you want to plug, I will absolutely hold space for you to do that. And if you know someone who would be a good interview candidate, please connect us!

    Thank you in advance. I appreciate you all 🙂

    • Hello, Conhratulations on your podcast! I would love to speak with you further about being a featured guest.
      My name is Maureen Joy, I recently joined this fabulous Idea Party.I have been following Barbara Sher for many years…I remember my cassette tapes of her talking about overcoming resistance.
      I’m a Trauma Survivor..emphesis on Survivor..Im a published author, I have a CD on iTunes and Amazon Downloads
      My Book I Had To Laugh To Live(How Humor Saved My Life) is 5 stars on Amazon. It was published last year at this time
      My CD Healing Journey and my Facebook Music Page/Blog Maureen Joy Healing Journey is my Trademark. I have been on a Healing Journey since my late 20s when my sister, my best friend was killed. The earth swallowed me up whole! It took years to learn and integrate Empowering Healing Tools such as Humor, NLP, Hypnosis, Mindfulness….
      I have developed a 2 hr interactive program sharing these and other Empowering Tools to navigate the terrain as Survivors.
      My mission: To Raise Awareness and Increase Empathy in Survivors of All Walks of Life.
      You can reach me here of course
      Thank you
      Maureen Joy
      Facebook: Maureen Joy Healing Journey

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