Barbara Sher’s Idea Party


How Does the Online Idea Party Work?

You have a dream or a wish, and an obstacle to getting there. (If you don’t think you know your wish, work through my kick-starter and read this post. To learn why you must put logic aside to find your dream, read the following.)

The online Idea Party is here to help you – and the other fellow party goers – with your wishes and obstacles.

Voices from Success Teams and Idea Parties:

Having a team to report to and hearing what everybody did each week is very exciting. It’s kept me moving all year. In the past I made some good starts on my own, but found, every time, when the energy ran out, I ran out. Now it doesn’t run out.
Jade G.
Children’s Playroom Therapist, New York Hospital

I would do a painting a year, a sketch a year. If it was only me I know I would never do it. Having to tell you makes all the difference. It’s crazy why I didn’t do this years ago, it’s so easy all of a sudden.
Caroline R. Personnel Executive, Macy’s Dept Store

Post Your Wish and Your Obstacle Here!

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4,206 thoughts on “Barbara Sher’s Idea Party

  1. Hi Team,

    I am new to the community and kind of nervous of how this is going to work out. Since the instructions say that I should communicate my wish along with the obstacle, I guess I will do just that. I am so sure that I am probably not the only one with this wish, and I feel silly even communicating it, but here we go:

    My wish: To find love. I would love to marry and have companionship/ family in my life.
    Obstacle: I am almost 40 and live in an island where most people are over the age of 55. I feel as if I already know everyone in my age group.

    • Welcome! You did that just right, Marie. Sometimes, we “know” people, but we really haven’t seen who they really are, so one thing to try is to throw an Idea Party. Find a location where you can all bring food to share and put up a poster inviting interesting people with lots of ideas. Have them take turns sharing a wish and an obstacle. Ask someone else to take notes for them, so they can pay attention to those offering ideas. If they don’t like an idea, ask them to share some part of it that they do like and ask “but what do we do about ____?” For example, you might reply to me, “I love the idea of getting the know the people here who are around my age better, but what do we do about the fact that I’m terrified of hosting a party?” Now, everyone has a new obstacle to work with, and they just might have a way to make the crazy idea work.

      By the way, I completely salute your wish! I was widowed at 34 and found my second husband at 45. We’ve been together for 25 years now. I’m not sure it would work everywhere, but I was at a conference where they had a country western DJ in the ballroom but too few men, so I walked across the hall to a hospitality suite in my cowboy boots, threw open the double door, and called out, “Does anyone in here know how to do a two-step?” My now husband replied, “No, but I have always wanted to learn.” I don’t think he expected that I was going to give him a 3-minute lesson and drag him over to the dance floor! (And he still can’t do a decent two-step!)

  2. OK, my awesome friends!

    Most of you know that I have been studying canine hydrotherapy for years….and even built the pool. Well, this week, I finally got insurance for my service! I have a few other things to do before my first client, but here is my last REAL obstacle….
    OBSTACLE: Long story, but the pool is about a foot and a half too deep for me to work with some dogs, as I now want the water line around my waist. It is great for larger dogs (like Great Danes), so we don’t want something permanent (like making it less deep), but I wanna build something that I can throw in and walk on beside the dogs while they have the depth of swimming (if they are a large dog). I was thinking like PVC frame (with holes, so it fills with water and sinks) with diving board material, but the diving board material on top would put me back a couple of thousand for the size I need. Looked at a million videos of dog resting stations, etc. and most don’t look like what I could make for me to walk on. I am thinking a diagonal piece from the ramp to the far corner, shorter piece across to adjacent corner, and short piece back to the ramp. Any ideas???? TIA!!!!!

  3. My dream is to sell my mobile home, buy a small RV to use as a traveling art studio called Joy Bound, and travel to prearranged differrent locations to facilitate ART AROUND workshops. As a visionary and artist I want to share art-centered activities I’ve designed for connecting to self and other through the immediate and intimate art of collage making.

    My obstacle is I have stayed in one place too long as a fish of out of water and lost heart.
    Feel like I need a small army to make this dream happen.

    • JoyBound,

      This sounds awesome. The best way to get started is to move forward and share your passion with the world. The world is waiting for you to show up.

      Until you purchase the RV may I suggest offering virtual classes which will attract people all over the world and you can charge for your services.

      In addition there are a lot of community centers and schools where you can offer classes.

      In fact I can use your services right now.

      • HELLO Necie,

        Thank you for your enthusiasm. I spent months spinning my wheels seeking venues for workshops. Finally a few weeks ago I did do a workshop. I am an eccentric and have experienced marginalization for far too many years. As for offering virtual classes I believe I want a mentor or business partner who is socially adept in general and particularly skilled n social media. I don’t even do facebook. I do not have a functional website……
        I’m afraid putting the RV Joy Bound out there late last night was premature. I’m currently working on an art project with a September 27th deadline and must stay focused, which is one of my bigger challenges. Love to continue this conversation in October.
        I’m curious what you do and what you mean when you write, “In fact I can use your services right now.” Appreciatively Joy
        Please email me directly to communicate if you would. if you even get this

        • I can help you with the website and social media.

          I run a not for profit geared towards women with fibromyalgia and art is therapeutic and good for healing.

          We also have a talk show and radio show.

          I will send you an email.

          Kind regards,


    • I LOVE this idea, Frances! I am just now almost ready to put my dream into action, after starting in, I think, 2015. Barbara always said, “Start small, but start NOW” She had a similar story in one of her books where a woman travelled around giving photography classes ….Have you read about that? TONS of ideas!

      • thanks for reminding me to that story. I just finished a class of Photography and need to practice, practice, practice, and leave my comfort zone …. and go out …

  4. Oh, you guys are gonna just love this one:
    Wish: to prevent yet another condo tower from being built or at least (and perhaps more realistically) put a limit of 5 or 6 storeys on it.

    Obstacle: How to convince all levels of government as well as developers that low-rise, mixed use buildings are worth the extra expense? Can they be built more cheaply using 3D technology? What about all those underused, publicly-funded golf courses? (Thank you, George Carlin!)

    Background: As Jane Jacobs said, towers are unlivable, and in addition to her amazing insights, I have my own list of reasons why. In many cities, these condos are often-and sometimes even mostly- owned by investors who don’t live there, so the homelessness problems are getting much worse, not to mention the fact that these investors are driving up land prices even higher.

    I know this is either happening or has already happened in other cities througout the world. I wonder if there is another Jane Jacobs out there who has succeeded in stopping it?
    Thank you!

    • Update: Have already spoken to some people about it, and have discovered that a tower was prevented from being built near a church! Need to talk to them. 🙂

  5. My wish is to complete my written PhD on dream healing mythology, by the end of 2023 and to have a secure financial foundation that will allow me to do this and keep weaving art and textiles, spinning fibres, playing the oboe and writing short stories, and having enough to look after myself. These are my gifts to the world.

    My obstacle:
    I have no idea who to ask for such help to secure a foundation for the coming year; I feel isolated and don’t know how to move my dream of attaining my PhD out isolation. Anybody have an idea?

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