Hanging Out Registration Re-Opens in April 2025
Hanging Out will be the jewel in the crown of Barbara’s Club. To be honest, I think it’s going to be the jewel in the crown of my lifetime’s work. That’s what it feels like. —Barbara Sher, 2012
Barbara called this members-only program Hanging Out, because she wanted it to be like those wonderful moments just hanging out together at her retreats and weekend workshops. Patty Newbold will be your guide now that Barbara is no longer with us.
Registration Re-Opens April 3, 2025
$197 for a full year
Barbara put together her most beloved ideas and stories and wrote her best stuff ever for Hanging Out. This was bigger than writing another book. It was a huge job, but every minute was a labor of love for her. And with this program she gives you videos from her retreats and workshops, loads of audio, new interactive stuff and other amazing things we can’t describe here or we’ll go on forever. All this in addition to the exercises that made a big difference to you in the past.
After almost a year HO is still my favourite thing on the internet and in my inbox. So many things I could just read over and over and find something each time. The world didn’t change but I’m different in it. -JD
I’m excited about this exercise. I’ve printed it out to work on over the weekend. Barbara, I look forward to working it through and circling back. You’re a gemstone! -A Hanging Out member in Week 38
Once you’re a member, the rest will be easy. Every week, three times a week, via email, I’ll send you some very special things to read, watch and do. They’re not what you expect, I’m pretty sure of that. As much as you may like my books, what you’re going to find in Hanging Out is very new and very different. You’ll want to make comments, compare notes and talk to the other members of Hanging Out, and that’s exactly what happens here. It changes the whole experience into something entirely new, something most of us are missing and need as much as vitamins and sunshine. The effect on most members has been profound.
Registration Re-Opens April 3, 2025
$197 for a full year
You can’t get Hanging Out all at once like a book that ends up on that pile of books you plan to read, and you can’t stick it back on your bookshelf and forget what your life is supposed to be. Barbara learned too much about what’s important for us humans to take that kind of chance.
You’ll receive emails from Barbara every Monday, Wednesday and Friday for a year, announcing the day’s video, audio message, Identity Exercise, Reality Series success story or Brain Candy she prepared for you. Barbara’s Director of Sher Success Teams and WriteSpeak Coach, Patty Newbold, will be reading and responding to your online comments. You’ll also be able to read Barbara’s replies to comments from our first eight years of Hanging Out.
Hanging out has really developed clarity in my life. One thing that I love about you Barbara is that you never tell anyone to just try harder and you don’t shame in any way. You support and encourage which is so very rare. You make sense of the non-sense. This group has provided something wonderful for me. Even the subtle messages are always very powerful. —Michelle
So what is it?
It’s easier to say what it’s not. Hanging Out is not a how-to course or a motivation program. I sometimes think it’s designed for people who have worked too hard and forgot what it’s like to wake up in a goal-free world full of fresh, stimulating ideas, fun and camaraderie.
I’ll always have courses for you on Barbara’s Club so you can find your dreams and achieve your goals, but Hanging Out is not about goal achievement. Instead, it’s more like what one member called “a profound and delicious form of Identity Rehab.”
I absolutely love the idea of Barbara’s Club being integrated into the everyday world—nothing to leave behind—and a consistent source of inspiration. Thank you! —Victoria, by email
If you join us here, Barbara’s emails and online messages will be popping into your life briefly, happily and relentlessly, over and over, waking up your senses, making you laugh and go exploring and, most important of all, helping you remember who you are and how good life is supposed to be.
You’ll receive emails from Barbara every Monday, Wednesday and Friday for a year, announcing the day’s video, audio message, Identity Exercise, Reality Series success story or Brain Candy she prepared for you. Barbara’s Director of Sher Success Teams and WriteSpeak Coach, Patty Newbold, will be reading and responding to your online comments. You’ll also be able to read Barbara’s replies to comments from our first eight years of Hanging Out, before she passed away.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating Hanging Out with Barbara. There have been so many “favorite” posts. One that stands out is your description of how you decorated your apartment with all the glorious references to color. I wanted to sink into one of your armchairs and absorb it all. Finding our originality. Yes. Discovering ways to express it. Yes. Realizing that time is short and excuses long. Yes. Boxing up all our should, would and could and relaxing into today, into now, into this moment. Yes. Finding that joy is the reward for allowing oneself to just be who you are. Yes. So many wonderful lessons I have learned, relearned, and unlearned this year…What I have learned this year has changed my life. For that I am eternally grateful. – A Hanging Out Member at the end of the year
No risk – full refund if you cancel your subscription within the first 30 days
$197 for a full year
OR pay by the month – $24 per month
Contact webmaster@barbarasclub.com if you encounter any problems with payment or if you don’t receive a “Thank You! And Welcome to Hanging Out” email within an hour after paying.
Registration Re-Opens on April 3, 2025
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Sounds like something I am very interested in. Please notify me when you are ready for subscribers, Thanks. Chad (TX)
It will be October 7th, right here, Chad. If your name is on our mailing list (there is a spot for that below the comments), we will be sure to email you about it.
Hi Patty,
Thanks so much for continuing Barbara’s work.
I was lucky enough to drive her and a group of us, including her assistant, from her hotel in Denver to an Idea Party at a home in Boulder. I cried when I learned of her passing. She was wonderful and I miss her.
Is Hanging Out like an Idea Party? I have a friend who wants to start a business but feels stumped and could really use input. Will Hanging Out be a good investment? Do you folks have Idea Parties anymore?
With thanks and blessings,
Jeff
Hi, Jeff. I have heard so much about that Idea Party! Every Success Team throws an Idea Party in Week 7, and Kimberly Stewart (who I believe organized that Idea Party you attended) and I will be offering Success Teams by Phone very shortly. I will send you an email about them. We also run two never-ending Idea Parties, one at https://barbarasclub.com/ideaparty and the other at https://www.facebook.com/groups/sherideaparty/
Hanging Out is something very different. It’s for people who want to explore what else might interest them, rather than people with a goal they want to go after right now. It’s a chance to dip into a lot of possible new interests (Barbara’s many interests and some from fascinating people she coached) while learning to manage your resistance to doing what makes you happy. But no goals, no wishes and obstacles and Backwards Flow Charts. Just trying out new things and exploring old beliefs.
Thanks, Patty.
I’ll look for the email about the Success Teams by Phone and check out the never ending Idea Parties.
BTW that Idea Party in Boulder was around 2004, 2005, something like that.
Take care.
Sounds about right, Jeff.
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Hey!
Just finished watching her infamous Ted talk and later found out she has already passed on. I just wanted the team to know how much I appreciate your efforts. This must be a truly amazing phenomenon to be living and letting people live their dreams.
Additionally I would also love to be part of any sort of online activities since I’m from India and I don’t think the hang outs happen in this region of the world yet.
Thanks and wishing the best to the team,
Agniva
Hanging Out is all online, in text discussions like this one, because we have members in almost every time zone. I hope you will join us in October, Agniva, because those of us who are carrying on for Barbara all love watching people make their dreams real.
Hello!
This is my first time in Hanging Out. The only video I received today in my inbox was the one where Barbara explains what the club is. Is that the only thing I should have received today?
Thank you!
Brenda
Nevermind! I found where I should be, I think!
Excellent!
I also have the same question.
Click on the video in the email. Or log in, then click on Hanging Out in the menu, then click on that Welcome to Hanging Out link.
HI Patty
This is Terre. I joined Hanging Out the first year. I can’t remember what I need to do to be able to participate in the new round.
You are paid up for life, Terre, so I have just restarted your emails.
Are the program materials, including videos, available after one year membership?
Yes
Hi – How interactive is Hanging Out. Is it at all like personal coaching?
No. More like a bunch of friends hanging out on the porch at dusk, having a conversation and exploring ideas. But in writing, with everyone jumping in whenever they’re available, because we’re all over the world instead of on one shared porch.
Hi Patty, do repeat members have a different payment amount or is it the same payment each year for new comers and repeaters?
If you have previously finished a year of Hanging Out, there should be a link on the Hanging Out page (when you are logged in) to subscribe to a repeat of the emails. If it’s not there, write me at webmaster@barbarasclub.com
Hi, I look forward to HO more than I can express! Being a writer, I’ll still try:
At age 24, I was torn between parental aspirations…and my nascent instincts.Your book Wishcraft changed my life! Your wisdom paired with what I’d been connected to since childhood–older adults and animals–lead me to a 30-year career at a humane society, working with seniors. Personal fulfillment–and multiple awards for my “vision”–ensued. Wishcraft paved the way! I turn 60 later this year. Hanging out sounds like the perfect venue for my “Third Act”…whatever it may be. Art and writing will be in the mix. I know that much. Barbara, thank your for offering another opportunity to guide my path.
We look forward to including you in Hanging Out in April, Elaine, for the start of your Third Act. And we miss Barbara, who passed away on May 10, 2020 but asked us to make sure we could continue all of her programs without her. Hanging Out is pure Barbara at her best.
Her obituary is at https://barbarasclub.com/obituary/