Idea Party


How Does the Online Idea Party Work?

You have a dream or a wish, and an obstacle to getting there. (If you don’t think you know your wish, work through my kick-starter and read this post. To learn why you must put logic aside to find your dream, read the following.)

The online Idea Party is here to help you – and the other fellow party goers – with your wishes and obstacles.

Voices from Success Teams and Idea Parties:

Having a team to report to and hearing what everybody did each week is very exciting. It’s kept me moving all year. In the past I made some good starts on my own, but found, every time, when the energy ran out, I ran out. Now it doesn’t run out.
Jade G.
Children’s Playroom Therapist, New York Hospital

I would do a painting a year, a sketch a year. If it was only me I know I would never do it. Having to tell you makes all the difference. It’s crazy why I didn’t do this years ago, it’s so easy all of a sudden.
Caroline R. Personnel Executive, Macy’s Dept Store

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  1. Goal: to work as a management consultant at McKinsey & Company or other international consulting firm. Why I want this? First, it’s what I will be doing every day: consulting is very challenging, and creative, and people are very intelligent there. And second – it is a great system where you can develop professionally and personally: there are trainings, and coaching, and a clear career path you can follow. Plus the money, and the opportunity to see the world and international businesses.

    Obstacle: Honestly, I have a good basis to reach the goal: education in finance, internship at PwC (also international consulting, but a little less prestigious), experience at an international oil&gas construction project. But I’ve graduated from a local university with a modest GPA – and they want people with top academics. I already got rejected 2 years ago – now I can try once again, but I am afraid they will throw my CV out again. I need to know someone from the company to get a fair look at me and my abilities. An insider would help by internal recommendation, or spreading a word about me, or advice on how to prepare.

    I am from Russia – but I would accept help from anywhere in the world!

    • Hi Evgeniya. I used to work in the Moscow office of McKinsey, so know a few people there and also know who could help you prepare for the interview process.

  2. Reading your book has really helped me to see a different perspective! I don’t know how I will do it, or how to stop thinking the old way instead of like a scanner: yet I am so willing to try!

    My wish is that I have a job where I am happy and not keep getting hired over and over again by different companies only to be disappointed and miserable. I want to serve others and not have the red tape, and mean attitudes from others that often show up in organizations that help the needy. I have contacted a few and even one that might be a good fit. I fear that the same thing will happen again. I usually down play all I have accomplished because I sound to good to be true. I don’t mean this as a boast. I mean that I seek to assist others and I go out of my way to achieve that.

    My obstacle is my own mind set and the ability to do this process differently so that it will produce a different result. I am a Jack of All Trades type of scanner. My home and my family are most important, as well as my faith. Can you help me?

    • This is exactly how I feel, and you’ve described my situation precisely. Here’s what is coming up for me and maybe this will help you:
      I recently realized that my mindset needed to be shifted with regard to my work. I under-employ myself because of fear (choosing jobs that aren’t a stretch so that I won’t make mistakes or fail). I have begun questioning how I interact with people and I’ve been witnessing when I go to fear, instead of love.
      This lead me to think about what type of work I truly want to do, instead of what I am qualified for. Another thing that I wasn’t doing was networking assertively. I was thinking “Where can I get a job? What am I qualified for?” rather than, “How can I be of service? What gifts do I have to offer?” That small change in mindset has helped me approach people differently. Now, I show up curious and interested rather than somewhat desperate and single-minded. It’s been interesting to see how much my mindset has shifted the outcome without a lot of extra effort.
      In the end, I have decided that I might be of better service as a freelance admin/strategist, instead of a admin assistant within a company. I want more agency, more freedom to look at the bigger picture, and I want better pay. From there I can hone in on something (depending on what more folks want/need) and move toward that (right now I do so much that it’s hard to see what’s the *most* valuable, but I’m researching that now).
      I wish you good fortune and pleasant paradigm shifting!

  3. I have several wishes, but I’m going to list the one that feels the most inconceivable one to me here. I’d like to find a life partner I am trully compatible with and where there is a strong mutual attraction. In my early 40s, ended a long-term relationship a year ago. Other wishes I have seem more straightforward in terms of figuring out ways to get it. But finding a partner, and finding love, has never been straightforward. Unlike with other things, coming across a such a person, seems as arbitrary as luck or the lottery, and the outcomes are not related at all to amount of effort. Have been online dating and putting myself out there and haven’t come across anyone that is compatible or want the same things I want.

    OBSTACLES: Live in a relatively small city where there are not many men in my age group to begin with, making finding someone difficult. The dating scene at this age is a different ball game. Most of the men in my age group are coming out of divorces, and are gun shy about commitment again, have different commitments and want different things than me. My confidence has been stripped from my experiences so far in dating over the past year, and with a depression I’m coming out of (lost a few family/friends in a short span of time, miscarraige). The possibilities for love seem more restricted given these circumstances, if not hopeless. I don’t know what to do anymore, or what I can do. I know that people often say to focus on your life and making that better and you’ll naturally attract someone you are compatible with, but I have never found that to be the case. I’ve always had to go out and look specifically for it, it never came to me. Even before the depression when everything was going great and when I was younger and probably more attractive, even then finding someone compatible was tough. Given my circumstances now, it seems near impossible that I’ll find love. Anyways, writing this was tough for me but I’ll put it out there.

    • There is a man named Matthew Hussey. He coaches women on how to find happy fulfilling relationships, how to find men, where to look for them, and everything you have just described. He has weekend retreats for women, blogs, sends you emails, all that stuff. He’ll inspire you. You can find him on youtube.
      Not to worry. Help is at hand.
      Good luck. All the best.


  4. Dream: find a nice job I enjoy, and which pays a decent salary. (Side dream: to earn more than I spend. Another side dream: I am an artist and want to support myself while I build my own business.)

    Obstacle: I’ve picked the wrong career early on and now i feel like i have no useful 21st century skills… I’ve spent my twenties terrified of committing to the wrong thing, and so basically spent them gaining a string of (mostly useless) qualifications – I sort of never really left school. I now have a teaching qualification and a doctorate. I spend half the week teaching on a casual basis in a university, half the week supply teaching in schools (this is the kind of job that makes you think ‘I really need a new job’…) and one day a week trying to set up my art business (update website, work towards sending drawings to a gallery…). I’m also a writer. I apply for office jobs I would like, but I don’t have enough ‘office’ experience for any of them. (I haven’t spent enough years sitting in an office chair, basically, and others have.) Full time university jobs don’t want me (there aren’t many out there, and I am not a dedicated researcher like they would want me to be…..). I don’t enjoy working in schools, having to discipline kids… My work is seasonal, I earn very little money, teaching is very draining, and I feel sad about it. I try to keep my art goals in mind, but every time I have a bad day of supply teaching (like today) I just wonder what on earth I’m doing with myself.

    I apply for jobs and go for interviews and I just don’t get anywhere. I try to be happy with what I’ve got… Sigh. I just really, really would like a nicer job, one where I don’t have to shout and one where I get paid a decent and regular wage…

    Thank you for letting me take out my frustrations on here 🙂

    • disciplining children – yes terrible, having to shout, terrible.
      Apart from new ways maybe there is also some possibility to change your way of teaching and working with children. Maybe some training of alternative teaching to get new ideas even in a regular school?

    • Can you teach adults instead? I was thinking of maybe training people in corporations or adult classes. That is, if teaching children is not to your liking.

      You can teach all kinds of things in different venues. You can have a blog, you can make videos and put them up on youtube. What do you teach? To have a doctorate in anything is to have serious credentials.
      You could be using them to get passive income. That means you put up a video on the internet, get advertising fot it, and have money come in from that without having to slave away.

      Simon & Schuster publish educational books. They may need people with an educational background. For editing, writing, whatever. You can still be an office drone if that’s what you would like, but you may be able to do it in a publishing house. Use your degree to get in.

      What is your art business concerned with? Would you rather be an artist? An illustrator? I don’t understand what you mean by an art business. Can you be specific?

      Thank you.


      • Teaching an art-related class for adults seems like a good solution. You can invent a course of art-therapy or “stress-free art for complete beginners”.
        If you are an expert in language or local culture, you can market yourself abroad. Like a native speaker teaching English. This would work well if you would like to live in another country, but you can also look for a temporary contract, or online teaching opportunity.
        I am from Russia, by the way. If you are interested in contacts of Russian universities, or language schools, or companies – I can help you in your search. I have no big connections, but a couple of friends who are English teachers, and people I worked with. Plus I know Russian, of course. Email at e.kubryak (at) if this idea interests you.

        As previously mentioned, be as specific as possible about your credentials and talents. Knowing them will give people (and you!) how you could use them.

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