Hanging Out Registration Re-Opens in April 2025
Hanging Out will be the jewel in the crown of Barbara’s Club. To be honest, I think it’s going to be the jewel in the crown of my lifetime’s work. That’s what it feels like. —Barbara Sher, 2012
Barbara called this members-only program Hanging Out, because she wanted it to be like those wonderful moments just hanging out together at her retreats and weekend workshops. Patty Newbold will be your guide now that Barbara is no longer with us.
Registration Re-Opens April 3, 2025
$197 for a full year
Barbara put together her most beloved ideas and stories and wrote her best stuff ever for Hanging Out. This was bigger than writing another book. It was a huge job, but every minute was a labor of love for her. And with this program she gives you videos from her retreats and workshops, loads of audio, new interactive stuff and other amazing things we can’t describe here or we’ll go on forever. All this in addition to the exercises that made a big difference to you in the past.
After almost a year HO is still my favourite thing on the internet and in my inbox. So many things I could just read over and over and find something each time. The world didn’t change but I’m different in it. -JD
I’m excited about this exercise. I’ve printed it out to work on over the weekend. Barbara, I look forward to working it through and circling back. You’re a gemstone! -A Hanging Out member in Week 38
Once you’re a member, the rest will be easy. Every week, three times a week, via email, I’ll send you some very special things to read, watch and do. They’re not what you expect, I’m pretty sure of that. As much as you may like my books, what you’re going to find in Hanging Out is very new and very different. You’ll want to make comments, compare notes and talk to the other members of Hanging Out, and that’s exactly what happens here. It changes the whole experience into something entirely new, something most of us are missing and need as much as vitamins and sunshine. The effect on most members has been profound.
Registration Re-Opens April 3, 2025
$197 for a full year
You can’t get Hanging Out all at once like a book that ends up on that pile of books you plan to read, and you can’t stick it back on your bookshelf and forget what your life is supposed to be. Barbara learned too much about what’s important for us humans to take that kind of chance.
You’ll receive emails from Barbara every Monday, Wednesday and Friday for a year, announcing the day’s video, audio message, Identity Exercise, Reality Series success story or Brain Candy she prepared for you. Barbara’s Director of Sher Success Teams and WriteSpeak Coach, Patty Newbold, will be reading and responding to your online comments. You’ll also be able to read Barbara’s replies to comments from our first eight years of Hanging Out.
Hanging out has really developed clarity in my life. One thing that I love about you Barbara is that you never tell anyone to just try harder and you don’t shame in any way. You support and encourage which is so very rare. You make sense of the non-sense. This group has provided something wonderful for me. Even the subtle messages are always very powerful. —Michelle
So what is it?
It’s easier to say what it’s not. Hanging Out is not a how-to course or a motivation program. I sometimes think it’s designed for people who have worked too hard and forgot what it’s like to wake up in a goal-free world full of fresh, stimulating ideas, fun and camaraderie.
I’ll always have courses for you on Barbara’s Club so you can find your dreams and achieve your goals, but Hanging Out is not about goal achievement. Instead, it’s more like what one member called “a profound and delicious form of Identity Rehab.”
I absolutely love the idea of Barbara’s Club being integrated into the everyday world—nothing to leave behind—and a consistent source of inspiration. Thank you! —Victoria, by email
If you join us here, Barbara’s emails and online messages will be popping into your life briefly, happily and relentlessly, over and over, waking up your senses, making you laugh and go exploring and, most important of all, helping you remember who you are and how good life is supposed to be.
You’ll receive emails from Barbara every Monday, Wednesday and Friday for a year, announcing the day’s video, audio message, Identity Exercise, Reality Series success story or Brain Candy she prepared for you. Barbara’s Director of Sher Success Teams and WriteSpeak Coach, Patty Newbold, will be reading and responding to your online comments. You’ll also be able to read Barbara’s replies to comments from our first eight years of Hanging Out, before she passed away.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating Hanging Out with Barbara. There have been so many “favorite” posts. One that stands out is your description of how you decorated your apartment with all the glorious references to color. I wanted to sink into one of your armchairs and absorb it all. Finding our originality. Yes. Discovering ways to express it. Yes. Realizing that time is short and excuses long. Yes. Boxing up all our should, would and could and relaxing into today, into now, into this moment. Yes. Finding that joy is the reward for allowing oneself to just be who you are. Yes. So many wonderful lessons I have learned, relearned, and unlearned this year…What I have learned this year has changed my life. For that I am eternally grateful. – A Hanging Out Member at the end of the year
No risk – full refund if you cancel your subscription within the first 30 days
$197 for a full year
OR pay by the month – $24 per month
Contact webmaster@barbarasclub.com if you encounter any problems with payment or if you don’t receive a “Thank You! And Welcome to Hanging Out” email within an hour after paying.
Registration Re-Opens on April 3, 2025
Purchase a gift certificate
$197 for a full year membership gift certificate
Gift certificate mailed within 48 hours. Contact webmaster@barbarasclub.com if you do not receive yours.
Luisa, we have learned that Hotmail and AOL send our comment emails to the user’s spam or junk folder. Your subscription to this page is active, and I will activate any others of yours that need activating, but please search for the lost comments and mark them as not spam.
As you subscribe to comments for each message, you should receive an email immediately. This first one is checking that it was you who entered your email address. If you click on the link in it, your subscription to comments for that message or page will be activated.
Very sorry – this is technical again.
I keep trying to activate my subscriptions to the debates in Hanging Out – in vain. Keeps telling me that my subscriptions are inactive (and I do not receive any notification on posts).
Can you help me?
Thanks. Luisa
Very sorry – this is technical again.
I keep trying to activate my subscriptions to the debates in Hanging Out – in vain. Keeps telling me that my subscriptions are inactive (and I do not receive any notafication on posts).
Can you help me?
Thanks. Luisa
Do you have many blind members? Or fibromyalgia members?
We do have blind members, David. I’ve never asked about fibromyalgic members. But Hanging Out isn’t a ‘Get it done’ program at all. For some reason, one person after another is finding a goal and going after it, but it’s not because of any demands from me. That’s what I wanted for Hanging Out: for all members to move at their own pace – or not move at all, as the mood took them. I wanted to create one program in which our inner clocks are completely respected so we can re-learn (maybe I should say ‘remember’) how we should be treating ourselves.
I’m writing you an answer to your email now, too, so take a look in your inbox when you have a chance.
We do have blind members, David. I’ve never asked about fibromyalgic members. But Hanging Out isn’t a ‘Get it done’ program at all. For some reason, one person after another is finding a goal and going after it, but it’s not because of any demands from me. That’s what I wanted for Hanging Out: for all members to move at their own pace – or not move at all, as the mood took them. I wanted to create one program in which our inner clocks are completely respected so we can re-learn (maybe I should say ‘remember’) how we should be treating ourselves.
I’m writing you an answer to your email now, too, so check out your inbox when you have a chance.
Hi Barbara,
Just wondering – can I join monthly at any time?
Many thanks,
Rachel
Yes. You can join monthly or for the year at any time. And it is only the full year price that goes up tonight.
Hi Barbara,
I am a great fan of your books and I would like to try Hanging Out with Barbara. I am not able to pay the whole amount in one payment, so I would rather go with the monthly payment. I just want to ask how the monthly membership works. Can I try your club for one month and then decide every month again that I am joining it or do I have to commit myself for one year – paying in monthly rates?
Thank you very much for your inspiring books and thank you for your answer.
Anne
Anne, when you pay for the first month of A month-to-month subscription, PayPal will set up a subscription of 11 automatic payments in your PayPal account. You can cancel them at any time through PayPal. If you have paid for, say, four months of Hanging Out, you will continue to have access to those four months of messages from Barbara indefinitely, and you can continue to read and post comments on them.
i’m currently subscribed to hanging out & loving it! if i purchase a ‘renewal’ membership to start at the end of my current one, will this be new material or the same as my current membership? thx.
A second year would be all new material. Barbara has not yet committed to a second year, but the number of members adding to their subscriptions this weekend seems to be nudging her strongly in this direction. If she decides not to do a second year, we will refund all prepayments.
Did I just read that ‘if I buy a gift certificate for someone, and they sign up’ that all of my money will be returned to me? (100% discount off the price when my person signs up) IF so, can I buy more than one? lol (By the way, you have been a lifetime inspiration since my college days of 1998, and I look forward to hanging out!)
What we meant to say is that if you buy a gift certificate at today’s price, and your recipient signs up after the price goes up, we’ll kick in the difference. Most gift certificates are for a fixed amount of money, but this one is for 100% of whatever the current price of a year of Hanging Out might be.
Are we going to get to talk to you? or “just” each other? No that I mind talking to each other but if we were at a retreat- surely I’d get to talk to you at least once. Love, Itara
ps I’m seriously thinking of signing up for this hanging out thing. love it.
Look around, Itara. I’m all over the place, answering comments until I’m a real pest. 🙂 Welcome!
Could you offer some gift certificates that are not for the whole year program? I would love to send some for my friends to be able to experience this for a month….what an awesome gift!!
And I would appreciate my friends and family being able to buy the same for me…..25 bucks or so would help me with my yearly subscription and would be the best gift ever!!!
cannot afford the yearly gift certificate right now before Christmas, but will re-subscribe no matter what next April…..