Go back over each of the exercises in your Daybook and each of your What I Learned comments here online. We’ve been at this for four months. Some of what you learned probably already seems old hat. Maybe some of it you’ve already forgotten. To get the most out of the book and our book club, take the time for a careful review and write yourself some notes on what you most want to remember.
It would be wonderful if you shared your notes here with the rest of us. You will renew our attention to something we overlooked or confirm the importance and value of what we will take away with us.
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Use the Next link (up above the title) to continue on to Refuse to Choose: How I Changed after you are done adding your comments.
I reviewed my Daybook entries. I reviewed our submissions to this site.
I noticed shared challenges with many of you: depression, struggling, perfection, getting rid of things
I read your replies differently eleven weeks later.
I found two ways of thinking in my life. I grouped them as my initial way of thinking and what I found from our exercises with some tension between the two – a paradox or a shift.
Examples
organize my home so it’s safe to leave home or be anywhere
grind out a solution to a problem or discover that someone else solved it
wish for ideal communication technology or communication with available tools
do things for money because they’re hard for others and get bored or work on things that are hard for me for the rewards of joy and sensation
playing basketball with others and not taking many shots or working by myself on making baskets
snowboarding on my own or prioritizing my kids’ activities
marriage or free
dividing my time across unenjoyable tasks or doing everything i really want to do
worrying about what others will think or following my own whims
focusing on love/marriage, our home, and work or on my health and kids
feeling lost or finding guidance in pain
pursuing perfect or finding resilience
trying to do all the things / every idea or only focusing on The things until I lose interest
what i think i want or what i really want
trying to figure it out or sleep
addressing pain or following joy
a career or a life
kids or myself
my wife understanding me or me understanding me
frozen or methodical / free to live slow
too much or filtered priorities
plate spinner / perfection / distraction or prioritized on dreams
parenting children or learning from children, continuing our own parenting and learning about nervous systems
needing my wife to be different or enjoying my wife as she is
the way i am or the way i want to be
needing friends or enjoying friends
is struggle necessary for processing hindrances?
is a crash necessary for change?
Wow Nate! Seeing the comparison side-by-side is really powerful. Thank you so much for such a deep Rich share!