When I was writing Live the Life You Love, I described five of the disguises resistance wears:
- I’m too busy.
- I’m probably just lazy.
- Maybe I don’t really want it badly enough.
- I’m suddenly bored with this project.
- I have more important things to attend to.
I’ve worked with enough stuck people to know these disguises very well. I had no problem describing them. But I needed to have real people do an exercise in which they read about all five and wrote about the disguise their own resistance typically takes.
I didn’t need to find out if this exercise would be helpful and freeing; of course it was. I’d used it in my coaching. But reading the exercise without a coach, my readers would need stories of real people doing the same sort of self-examination. They would need to feel comfortable acknowledging their own story is resistance in disguise before I showed them why they can’t just bust through these disguises and get back to work.
How to get some real stories in living language quickly? Spend 30 or 45 minutes with a few people, collecting their reports, in their own words, about what they wrote for themselves. In other words, do an FAQ!
Lila: It was very funny to see that list. It made me laugh like I had just gotten caught doing something wrong. I always say I’m too busy to start sewing up my dress designs, but I still manage to find time for television!
Jake: I can’t make myself sit down to write my grant proposal. If feels like so much work I get tired just thinking about it. I thought I was lazy, but I’ll clean the whole house to avoid writing that proposal!
Martin: When I have something I’m avoiding I get on the phone, and stay on. I’ll call anybody. Then the time is gone and I think, “If I just had more time I’d start right now. Who am I kidding?”
That is a pretty useful return on less than an hour of my time, isn’t it?
Just in case your book could use some quotes like these and you’re feeling too busy, lazy, disinterested, bored or important to do any more FAQs, check out Lesson Six in Live the Life You Love for my four-part Resistance Strategy.
In the comments, tell us why you did or didn’t do an FAQ this week.
That’s all for this week. Next week’s assignments will arrive on Monday.
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