How Does the Online Idea Party Work?
You have a dream or a wish, and an obstacle to getting there. (If you don’t think you know your wish, work through my kick-starter and read this post. To learn why you must put logic aside to find your dream, read the following.)
The online Idea Party is here to help you – and the other fellow party goers – with your wishes and obstacles.
Voices from Success Teams and Idea Parties:
Having a team to report to and hearing what everybody did each week is very exciting. It’s kept me moving all year. In the past I made some good starts on my own, but found, every time, when the energy ran out, I ran out. Now it doesn’t run out.
Jade G.
Children’s Playroom Therapist, New York Hospital
I would do a painting a year, a sketch a year. If it was only me I know I would never do it. Having to tell you makes all the difference. It’s crazy why I didn’t do this years ago, it’s so easy all of a sudden.
Caroline R. Personnel Executive, Macy’s Dept Store
Post Your Wish and Your Obstacle Here!
And help your team mates out when you can. Use the Reply link to help, the form below the comments to add your own Wish and Obstacle.
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Dear Barbara, I discovered you only ten days ago. I felt so inspired and motivated that I spent days watching your videos, making notes and brainstorming on my dreams. Lately I’ve been focusing on channelling my creative energy and (re)shaping my career. I want to become a coach and therapist. Your presence, your attitude and your work have showered my path with joy, humility, courage, clarity, myth-busting and common sense. I was hoping to get in touch and chat with you. Today I learned that you passed away and I feel a loss I haven’t felt in a long time. At the same time, I feel a surge of energy to carry on with my journey, more determined than ever. I’m starting a Success Team. Thank you for your presence. Thank you for your gifts.
Love,
Anja
she left a legacy it is up to us. keep it up like you are. jr
Dear friends
I still can’t realize the sad news, that our loved Barabra has passed away so suddenly.
I am full of gratitude, that she and her work came into my life. Her Books changed my life. The wonderful inspiration of wishcraft – naming wish and obstacle – helped me to make several things come true. Learning to ask for support was a real challenge for me.
Meanwhile I became a support-Team leader / success-Team leader, and had the chance to pariticpate in some of Barbaras Coaching-Classes and Weekend-workshops. So I will really miss her regularly loving and caring messages in my inbox.
But I am happy to have the communitiy with all her fans her on this site and in Facebook.
And to see lots of her inspiring talks on youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31AYBZfy7jk&list=PL8FcqhudnuU0-TZ6QsuFzhpaeZgS6kJSG&index=6&t=0s
Therefore I would like to share the Links to people who were trained by her, to support you, so that you can and will still follow your your dreams – so that her work goes on – to save your talents, gifts, missions 🙂 .
Coaches Trained by Barbara Sher
http://www.barbarasher.com/coaching.htm
As the trainings took part in Frankfurt / Germany – most of the coaches listed there are situated in Europe – but many are speaking english, and thanks to Skype and Zoom, it is easy to connect.
List of registered successteam leaders world wide
http://shersuccessteams.com/
Successteam-leaders in German-speaking-Countries
https://www.wishcraft-online.de/ausbildung-zum-zur-erfolgsteam-leiter-in
And of course, all her books are availabe
pick our copy of wishcraft, and get started: create your own local team – as described in the book – or aks someone of the pages above for help
http://wishcraft.com/
http://wishcraft.com/wishcraft_complete.pdf
https://barbarasclub.com/bcmedia/downloads/How_To_Get_What_You_Really_Want.pdf
Love
Astrid Meyer
Thanks, Astrid!
RIP Barbara. Thank you for all the good work you did. <3
Hey all! For folks who’d like a more cohesive, reliable support system to bust through our obstacles and make our dreams happen, let’s organize that! Please reply to this comment with an email address you’d like me to reach out to and, next week, I’ll reach out to whoever’s address I’ve got to get started brainstorming what we’d like to create!
I would be interested. My email address is [redacted for privacy]. Thanks, Megan, for organizing this.
I’m interested. My email is [redacted for privacy]. Thanks!
my email is actually [redacted for security reasons] . Thanks.
Barbara showed me I’m good at generating ideas… count me in!
But rather than all of us telling you our emails, why don’t you start a “stage name” email for this purpose and we can write YOU. Then there only needs to be ONE email address in this thread rather than a string of them for the Bots to harvest… Great idea Megan!
I use Brax.me chats instead of emails. Because Brax.me is completely encrypted and allows group participation in any chat. You don’t need a phone number, your real name or your email to sign up to Brax.me because the guy who runs it specializes in protecting Internet data privacy for us “little people.” Brax.me is free for starters.
If we wanted to use Brax.me as our tool to make our dreams happen…for the price of web hosting, we would get not only a private membership site, the ability to make as many web pages as we wanted, the ability to do broadcasts live streaming…I think we also get a phone app that refers people to our part of Brax.me too.
Anyway – just one of my ideas…
Hi. I just saw these messages. Is there a way for me to join?
Thanks a lot, Claudia
i am happy to hear that you want a m ore wise and gr ounding Exp erience. Dig ital can only go so far and this has frustrated me. There is a better way, can we barnstorm? this is my email
bealove warrior r@ gmail.com… and i would love to rise up and truly dream and dream more together. love this. we need a space or even simply zoom.us or hop in…we will find it. but first let us unite/conect please. this has been censored
Thank you! Are those spaces or underscores in your email? I’ll reach out to you and others who’d like to join next week! 🙂
I would be interested too. Email: [redacted for privacy]. Thank you.
I would like to continue the idea party but don’t feel comfortable doing it here that much. I like it when people meet in a committed way to uplift each other. Is anyone interested? I don’t want to do add a random comment and maybe expect a response anytime anywhere…i don’t know if it makes sense but a bunch of people meeting and bond a bit more then here can go much further don’t you think?
What is my wish?
I don’t want to affected by my trauma anymore and i think i found some answers now
I want to feel comfortable in my skin and safe.
I want to be mobile traveling and not be stuck in this location teach self-healing with massage/ body and mind. I have created my own protocol.
I want the love of life to finally show up even at this stage.
I completely agree. Putting our desires out in the ether and then maybe getting a response or maybe not doesn’t help me feel less isolated and it’s really hard to keep track of and offer ongoing support for people that way. I would love to form a more cohesive, consistent support system that brings people together and help people feel less isolated for real. 🙂
i am happy to hear that you want a more wise and grounding experience. Digital can only go so far and this has frustrated me. There is a better way, can we barnstorm? this is my email
[redacted for privacy]… and i would love to rise up and truly dream and dream more together. love this. we need a space or even simply zoom.us or hop in…we will find it. but first let us unite/conect please.
I would like to move from idea party to “solution party.” I hope that I am naming the second thing correctly. Barbara had a specific name for the gathering where people would actually help one another forward, which I think was Solution Party.
I would like to be in a solution-helping environment instead of just ideas.
hi ty so good to know we want to move forward in a tangible manner. i love this and i started this idea but there is another woman who is now wanting to do this alone. I find that a bit disappointing to push the initiator out or not even mention that i started this or at least synergize….. let us see if we can do great things and respect others along the way too i have left my email so that we can collide and uplift each other and you are welcome too. ty i appreciate.
My apologies. I didn’t think it mattered who did what because the goal was finding supportive community, not who got credit for what. I find that to be kind of petty, honestly. I was so excited and thought that I was helping, but I’ll go ahead and let you take the lead since that’s clearly important to you.
gees what anger it triggered already and judgment. i was looking to team up not steal your thunder girl. relax. It is time that i say what i need to say and how i feel and not be gaslight ed nor misjudged. i did not bring up this idea to be a lone wolf. but to decide together. you should stop making things for others you are not in my shoes either.
Hi Tom
I never heard Barbara talking about a solution Party.
In the Book Wishcraft it it called Brainstorming and Barnraising
The Idea-Party is standard Part of the Success-Teams – but you can thorogh it, whenever you need ideas for your project.
you invite some people, tell your wish (as precise as possible, or the essence of it) and the obstacle: I want to have a farm, and have no money – and then, the others can offer their ideas – all ideas, even crazy ones – are welcome , like: rent a farm, offeryour help to elderly farmers, and so on, and afterwards the can chose the ideas that fit or adapt parts of the ideas.
and to get things done check this mini-guide out, find your success-Team
https://barbarasclub.com/how-to-get-what-you-really-want-12/
or get a copy of the Book Wishcraft:
http://wishcraft.com/wishcraft_complete.pdf
the wonderful Brainstorming according to Barbara Sher is described in Chapter 6
Barnraising in Chapter 7
Maybe then the correct name I was trying to think of is “Success Team,” if this refers to the group of people who help one another by taking practical actions.
What about the person or people who have been involved with Barbara in this web site? What are their plans for the future of Barbara’s work?
Hi Tom
you asked
What about the person or people who have been involved with Barbara in this web site? What are their plans for the future of Barbara’s work?
Patty wrote in the newsletter with the sad news
” It is with great sadness that I report to you Barbara Sher’s passing on Sunday, May 10, 2020, of natural causes. Please know that Barbara cared deeply about your dreams and your unique genius. She spent the last decade preparing for this eventuality by creating Hanging Out, the Survival Guide for Dreamers, her Book Clubs, her Idea Party and WriteSpeak and by preparing coaches and Success Teams leaders and WriteSpeak coaches and Book Club guides to carry on her work. She wanted to be sure you will have even more of her thinking than she could share in her many books, as well as people she trusted to assist you.
(…) We will miss her infectious enthusiasm, but Barbara’s work will continue. I (Patty Newbold) will continue to work online with the brilliant and talented team Barbara chose: Doret Jordaan, Tammy Garver, and Patrice Jenkins. Matthew Pearl and Gundrun Schwarzer will continue her work in Europe. And her many Success Teams leaders and Barbara Sher Coaches will continue her work all around the globe. ”
read the whole message here:
https://myemail.constantcontact.com/Some-very-sad-news.html?soid=1011233438048&aid=jHRgsOGo1G8&fbclid=IwAR1BN9sufnEjPMtoH3SEUIdmTd9G2xwvujwkrtt4FVzQ29uA3IFlLCobkog
Love
Astrid
All of BarbarasClub.com and SherSuccessTeams.com and GeniusPress.com and erfolgsteams-online.de (Success Teams in Germany) will continue, per Barbara’s plan.
I’m glad you’re in charge, Patty – you’ve got such a plethora of relevant skills to be able to manage everything…part of the advantages of Scannerhood.
Hi J recine –
I see your wishes – what are the obstacles?
If you could name a clear wish (more precise than “feel comfortable”) and the obstacles we could start finding ways how to overcome them.
or: what does it mean for you “I want the love of life to finally show up” – how does he / she look like, what does this person do, how old, and so on, what did you do already to find him/her (invain)
good luck – take care-
Astrid
i did not think it was really an obstacle. I was just stating /declaring what i wanted. I was not intending to write details here. I just think that anything can be said generically that it is all possible then, because it is. i can say the same for you too. I am not sure that this is what a success team does though when they uplift each other. There is a bit more involved like a mapping etc,. that is why i prefer people that meet weekly and who hold each other accountable. what do you think?
J re: Weekly, every two weeks or having a “buddy” who shares accountability with you – all are preferable for me too. Online ideas that come from strangers who cannot really do practical things to help each other only go so far.
To understand what Success Teams do, what book you want is the second one Barbara Sher wrote about exactly how to run a success team. It’s called “TeamWorks.’ It’s all about what Success Teams do, how they do it, how to start one – all the nuts and bolts of what a “REAL” idea party is…how to advertise for one, who to invite, best places for the Idea Party to happen, etc. You’ll LOVE that book – it’s so practical!
I also feel this idea party here is not the best way. Before finding the ideal way, online or locally, I think the official Facebook Idea Party group is more efficient: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sherideaparty/?ref=share
As for me, I’d like to create a local action group (in Prague, Czechia (EU)), but I face resistance… and I’m alone (“isolation is the dream killer”)! Maybe I’ll post on that FB group…
RIP Barbara and let’s honour her work by kicking our butts gently and realising our dreams together! Her soul is with us!
Hi Bruno,
thanks for the FB- link.
did you know, that Barbara held her TED-talk in Prague?
may be, you find some people who were there?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2rG4Dg6xyI&list=PL8FcqhudnuU0-TZ6QsuFzhpaeZgS6kJSG&index=32
do you know “meet-up” – one way to find people with the same interests in your city.
Unfortunately, Facebook has even less semblance of any privacy than this online site – by far. Here we don’t have to use our real names, whereas on Facebook, everything we type and click on is sold to advertisers or whoever will pay. PLUS there is NO WAY to delete anything you type or reveal on Facebook about your life, your hopes, your problems or intimate issues.
Personally, I wouldn’t would want my employer or potential clients to know that much about the intimate content of my own life that I’ve revealed to this crowd here.
I just found out about Barbara recently and see that she has passed. Maybe she is helping these groups from the afterlife..
I have a goal and obstacles I’d like to share.
GOAL: To have incredible and loving sex, karezza, or intimacy often with someone.
BLOCKS:
1. No partner
2. Living at parents. Can’t afford my own place.
3. Corona Virus pandemic.
Sounds like your first step is to start planning how to afford a place for this, Brian. Those are steps you can take even during a stay-at-home order. You can also reach out to friends and ask them to introduce you to possible partners by telephone or video chat.
thanks a bunch
Yes, (rather than using any online dating sites,) I heartily recommend that you ask those you know well and already share an easy rapport with to keep an eye out for you, if they do not already know someone who would be perfect for you.
One of the best friends I ever had (who still does understand me) was a person that numerous other people told me I should team up with – from various unconnected sources. In retrospect, I decided that more often other people who knew me really well were better at choosing an intimate partner for me than I was!!
The other questions you might want to ask yourself: How would I recognize someone with whom I will have intimate rapport in an ongoing way? Of course, the longer and more you know about a potential intimate and the more ways you connect, the better the intimacy gets.
Then: What do *I* need in someone who would be spending lots of time with me, given that will be possible in the future?
For instance, if you are a musician, you would need to find someone with whom you can share not only your ongoing musical interest. You need someone who doesn’t mind listening to you practicing. Preferably, someone who appreciates what it means to practice and how exactly to get multiple benefits from practicing…something in their own life, (even if it’s not music that they practice.) Or if your job interest requires you to travel or interact with many others – jealousy can’t be an issue in that instance.
#2 can be an advantage, because it is always possible that your potential intimate will already have a home and might need your help in their already-going project that has become too over-whelming for them. Which means, not only would you be able to live with them, but they may have a “job” for you that requires your full attention. Your ability to have that time to devote to their project (that you would also find fascinating) is then a big advantage. So doing the exercises in Barbara Sher’s books about what does fascinate and inspire YOU is well-spent effort now too.
Every circumstance is also an advantage (as well as a disadvantage) depending on a particular person’s needs. Draw a picture of that particular person’s situation and imagine how you could become ultimately useful, helpful and indispensable to them based on your own interests, innate skills, inspirations and abilities.
For instance: imagine a situation where you being free to help someone else who has too much going on who needs ongoing help – what would that look like and what skills would you need to have to be that helpful answer to that potential person’s prayers?
#3 is actually an advantage too. It puts both of you in a situation that is actually constructive. Because the two of you must interact virtually, the two of you are not able to “Woo” each other before both of you know what you’re getting into. You can take the time to know if you might want to make that particular person the one who you’d WANT to be intimate with, without being pressured to wine and dine them as a prerequisite to even being able to talk with them! Also, narcissistic, abusive people tend to force intense intimacy “too soon” with empathic people. So finding someone who is willing to get to know you gradually over time indicates they’re NOT a narcissist.
When you think about it, choosing an intimate partner is possibly the most important decision you can make – considering the accidental possibility of children and the success or mess that could happen later.
A lot of positive info here. I appreciate the thoughts and ideas.
Thanks! Seeing and describing positive advantages is a point of view that I learned from studying de Bono’s thinking skill AND Barbara Sher’s examples – and those people who were so pro-active on Barbara’s old forum and here on Hanging Out. This is how Barbara’s attitude lives on – in those people like me she was able to benefit!
I am sharing your sadness. Barbara was the soul of it. It is up to people to continue to support each other’s ideas and dreams .. up to you, up to me.. up to everyone
RIP to someone who was truly inspirational.
I am so sad about the news. May blessings wrap the family and all who knew Barbara.
Will the Idea party/group continue?
The Idea Party will continue!