Barbara Sher’s Idea Party


How Does the Online Idea Party Work?

You have a dream or a wish, and an obstacle to getting there. (If you don’t think you know your wish, work through my kick-starter and read this post. To learn why you must put logic aside to find your dream, read the following.)

The online Idea Party is here to help you – and the other fellow party goers – with your wishes and obstacles.

Voices from Success Teams and Idea Parties:

Having a team to report to and hearing what everybody did each week is very exciting. It’s kept me moving all year. In the past I made some good starts on my own, but found, every time, when the energy ran out, I ran out. Now it doesn’t run out.
Jade G.
Children’s Playroom Therapist, New York Hospital

I would do a painting a year, a sketch a year. If it was only me I know I would never do it. Having to tell you makes all the difference. It’s crazy why I didn’t do this years ago, it’s so easy all of a sudden.
Caroline R. Personnel Executive, Macy’s Dept Store

Post Your Wish and Your Obstacle Here!

And help your team mates out when you can. Use the Reply link to help, the form below the comments to add your own Wish and Obstacle.

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2,707 thoughts on “Barbara Sher’s Idea Party

  1. I’ve recently wanted to get my foot in the door on learning coding and starting to make plans for my future Career instead of being stuck as a retail drone for life. I’ve worked with computers my whole life, and I’m positive I’ve mastered all the basics.

    What’s holding me back from achieving this is my Major Depressive Disorder. Every day I wake up with a 5% battery it seems and with all the help I’ve tried, nothing seems to help. Every time I start to put my foot forward on to achieving this goal, it’s like my brain is holding me back. Not enough time, not enough energy, there’s already so many people doing it, why should I? I just feel like my own brain is holding me back from trying anything, and nothings really pushing me forward. I’m in purgatory.

    • Maybe you don’t know that I have had to learn to manage depression too. My friend believes everything wrong with us humans is either connected to what we’re eating or what we’re (not) doing physically. Then he makes me laugh with some really dumb jokes (like the above.) But…even though he teases me by repeating it’s the food or you’re not getting enough exercise, it’s surprising how dumb little things can really make a difference…
      What I suggest is that you might find many little ways to solve your energy levels by keeping track of when you feel tired. Pay attention to yourself really carefully by starting a “healing report list.” Keep a tiny dated & timed notebook about when you eat something that makes you tired…or when you eat something that makes you feel particularly fine, when you talk to someone and get tired, when you read something that gets you tired, etc… Make notes when you get tired and what you were doing – anything you were doing.
      Later you can sort out the patterns to focus on why tiredness might be happening. Because currently – you’ve got this one big catch-all reason you’re tired or reticent to do anything that’s been diagnosed with an oh-fish-all name and all. (Believe me, I’ve been there.)

      For instance, doing this made me realize how often I am actually hungry around 5pm and so I start to feel sleepy and start to make mistakes and forget to complete stuff and feel really spaced out and get angry with myself. I realized I should avoid making plans when I feel this way because I don’t feel like doing anything around that time of the day like a grumpy child. But if I eat a high-protein snack around 4:30, a smoothie with protein powder or some leftover lunch, etc – (just a little bit works for me) then the tiredness goes away immediately. Then if someone asks me to go out later in the evening, making any other plans…I’m not tired and I don’t think I’ll be tired later either. And I’m not tired.
      By doing this journal activity, I also discovered the phenomena of decision fatigue – generally, I’ll get tired when I am faced with too many decisions in too short of a time frame, like when I go shopping – which again, I often do in the late afternoon. The solution to that is a sort nap – only 10 minutes works. But having a shopping list really helps to avoid being distracted by making decisions. So often there are many solutions and doing a bit of all of them is “the answer.”

      I also discovered keeping track of when I was tired that pillows need to be washed. I didn’t know this, because I used to live in a dry climate. I was allergic to this non-obvious undetectable mold that was growing inside the pillows I was using that made me not sleep well and get a stuffy nose when I slept. It took me forever to figure this out, because allergies make me tired and I was going to bed to sleep anyway. I also discovered those “snore-strips” that stick to the top of your nose and spring open your nasal passages. I originally started wearing them to be nice to my guyfriend who said I snored when my dentist changed my bite…but realized I really did feel refreshed & didn’t wake up at night so often. So now I don’t feel tired when I wake up also – big difference.

      I have sooo many additional suggestions that relate to how I’ve learned to manage my complete lack of desire to do what I love to do. When I finally get around to doing these activities, I slap myself, “why in the world would I ever put off doing this?”

      Can we chat more about this on my favorite encrypted site: ???
      Plus Rob Braxman at is an amazing coder and app designer and he is really excited about the new Librem5 phone. I’ve adopted him as my newest mentor for my own reasons, but you’d probably enjoy him as a fellow programming inventor.

  2. Maida ,

    Have you ever thought of teaching through something like iTalki? You can be a peer tutor or go the route to be full language teacher on the site with your own rates and hours.

  3. I have worked over 30 years in offices doing accounting and bookkeeping. I was hoping now at this point in my life that I could start to slow down and spend more time doing what I really enjoy which is teaching English as a second language.

    At this current time I am working two afternoons in an office doing bookkeeping work. Along with that I am teaching English to Chinese children through an online company which I am really enjoying and would love to keep doing. While this is good it is not enough to pay my bills. I am getting unemployment help from my government but that is ending in mid October.

    Obstacle: Because the students are located in China and I am located in Quebec in the EST time zone there is a 12 hour time difference. This means I can only teach in the early mornings or through the night, the latter of which I would not do. In August I have been lucky to get bookings at night time in my time zone but I think once the kids go back to school that could end and then I only have the mornings to teach. So that would mean that I would have to find a part time or full time job in an office which would mean that I would have to cut back on my online teaching which may or may not affect my contract with the company.

    Wish: I would like to find a platform where I could teach anytime throughout the day in my time zone so that I could have multiple classes and use this as my main source of income but there does not appear to be anything like that. I have done research and asked questions in facebook groups but the bulk of the companies are based in Asia with similar time zones of 12 hour differences. If anyone can think of a company that would make my wish come true that would be wonderful.

    Another thing I am looking for is that I currently have a couple of students that I teach ESL to. The problem with these students is that they are unable to pay the rate that I would like to charge due to the circumstances they are in back home in their country.

    Obstacle: I have had people tell me I am not charging enough and others tell me I am charging too much. It seems that a lot of students I meet refuse to pay my rate of $25-30 per hour.

    Wish: I would like to be able to target more of those people who live in my city or abroad and can afford to pay what I ask for. I would like to know the best way to go about finding these people so that I could paid at least close to what I am worth and so that I would use my time wisely.

    • Maida ,

      Have you ever thought of teaching through something like iTalki? You can be a peer tutor or go the route to be full language teacher on the site with your own rates and hours.

      • Sera,
        Thank you for your response. I did try iTalki several years ago. I checked it out recently and they suggest my making a video in my profile. Since I don’t really do videos I would have to find someone who could help me. I think I will look on Simbi and Fiverr for that. But it is definitely worth my revisiting again.

        There is another site called Cafetalk where you can also teach different subjects. I put up my profile a couple of months ago but have had nothing at all there. Sometime it just takes time.


    • Have you ever checked out a model of teaching called “Flipped” learning? Essentially, it’s making a video of your “lecture” for your students – and then reserving another time – classroom time now available, since you’re not lecturing – to work with them independently in the time they would normally spend doing “homework.” …in essence, “flipping” the homework that was done in class with the “lecture content” to be done at home by watching a video that can be replayed.
      “Flipped learning” evolved through helping (sick) students who needed to make up classes so they wouldn’t fall behind on really high content courses like Chemistry, Language, etc. It was so successful, teachers decided to switch to teaching that way deliberately for every student.

      Using this model, you could have a membership youTube channel or Social Vision membership site (or Patreon) – with your lecture content for a very low price – you could use multiple platforms for more $$ etc, Then each student’s needs & skills could be tailored by individual attention at your higher rate of pay – in the “homework” phase. The students who have less $$ could just attend your lectures, without the individual attention that’s more expensive tailored version of what you have to offer. Your foreign students could turn into student teachers for this part of their course – because their students could watch your video lectures too.
      The lecture videos would also act as a portfolio of who you are and how you teach so your potential students nearby could see what they would be getting before they signed up for your course. Paying for a course n advance helps commitment levels too – I recommend that for your local students who have more disposable income.

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